Saturday, July 05, 2008


Not too long ago I sent an email to someone. I hadn't seen or spoken to them in awhile and wanted to make sure everything was cool. I was expecting them to either give me the brush off or to simply say, naw we are cool. Unfortunately neither happened. It seemed as though only part of what I wrote was read and even that was taken a little out of context. It bothered me and I sent subsequent emails trying to better explain myself but in the end I probably made it worse. Such is life.

I hate being misunderstood I really do. I think it happens a lot more because most people don't communicate face to face anymore. Not with emails, text messages, and instant messages. Because of that, it is hard to really understand the intent of a person. But this situation has taught me a lot of things about myself and other people. From now on if I have to talk about something of a serious, emotional, or personal nature, I will either do it on the phone or face to face or I won't discuss it at all. The bible says to not let your good deeds be ill spoken of and that is one way I will avoid having that happen.

I sent the person a link to my blog as well. If she happens to read it, I hope she understands my intention was to really make sure we was on the same page. I just didn't know if time or distance would make communicating awkward and that is why I wrote what I did. I know I probably read too much into stuff and let my imagination get the best of me and I am big enough to admit that. I never wanted to put her or myself in a position that made either of us uncomfortable and that is why I wrote. But now that I know we are cool, I am cool.

To my readers, if you have been misunderstood, try your best to make sure the other person understands where you are coming from. If you are not able to, move on and just take it as a lesson learned. Understand that perception is reality for some people and no matter what, others may not see things your way. Just try to be the best person you can be and others will understand you and love you for who you are. Q

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