I was in a training class this week and had to do a presentation. I choose cupcakes of course and compiled a bunch of pics together to show everyone. Here they are. Q
Red Velvet
Sour Cream
Sour Cream 2
Coconut cream
Jets cake
Yankees cake
Red velvet cupcake
Red velvet cupcake 2
D b-day
The Meya
Super Bowl
Mom's wedding
Mom's cake 2
Mom's cupcakes
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Saturday, July 09, 2011
It's our anniversary!!
Today Thomas and I are celebrating a baker's dozen in years of marriage. It doesn't seem like it has been that long at all. We have been through so many ups and downs and I can honestly say, the good outweighs any bad there may have been. I was only 19 years old when I said, "I do" and I have no regrets. Even though I hadn't lived long, I went through enough in my short 19 years to know I was ready. Like most young women, I tried the dating thing. I did things I thought was right but ended up completely wrong.
Looking back, I'm grateful for how I finally let go and decided to let God move on my behalf when it came to a mate. When I met Thomas, I had not too long prior rededicated my life to Christ and pretty much thought I would be single for the rest of my life. And I was okay with it. I had my list of qualities I wanted/needed in a husband and I wasn't going to settle for anyone who didn't exhibit all of them. Then along came Thomas and my world was completely changed!!!
I can now truly thank God for giving me not just what I wanted, but what I needed. I thank Him for the heartaches, heartbreaks, letdowns, losers, liars, cheaters, and no good men who came across my path in some way or another. I thank Him for giving me the wisdom to peep their game and to kick them to the curb. I thank Him because my husband is the exact opposite of all of them. I thank Him for giving me someone who is the perfect example for the man I want the Supremes to marry. I thank Him for these 13 wonderful years so far and I thank Him in advance for the years to come. Q
Looking back, I'm grateful for how I finally let go and decided to let God move on my behalf when it came to a mate. When I met Thomas, I had not too long prior rededicated my life to Christ and pretty much thought I would be single for the rest of my life. And I was okay with it. I had my list of qualities I wanted/needed in a husband and I wasn't going to settle for anyone who didn't exhibit all of them. Then along came Thomas and my world was completely changed!!!
I can now truly thank God for giving me not just what I wanted, but what I needed. I thank Him for the heartaches, heartbreaks, letdowns, losers, liars, cheaters, and no good men who came across my path in some way or another. I thank Him for giving me the wisdom to peep their game and to kick them to the curb. I thank Him because my husband is the exact opposite of all of them. I thank Him for giving me someone who is the perfect example for the man I want the Supremes to marry. I thank Him for these 13 wonderful years so far and I thank Him in advance for the years to come. Q
Friday, May 27, 2011
Not just the internet
We've all said it. I've said it as well. It's just the internet, it's not that serious. I remember when I first got online, that's exactly how I felt. For me it was about finding information to make my life easier and that was it. I joined forums and then started interacting with people. I was still able to disconnect and not get too into things. But somewhere along the way things started to change. The people went beyond being screen name xyz and they became human. I saw them as souls who I could show the love of Christ to. I opened up more not because I was weak or didn't have a life but because I knew my life, my story could be a testimony to bless someone else. I wasn't stupid or careless, I was very aware that what I posted could be used against me but none of that mattered.
I chose to be who I wanted to be. Some people don't ever post pics, use their names or locations and that is fine for them. My husband started referring to folks online as my serial killer friends. ROFL But I know there are more crazy people I see everyday versus those I posted and interacted with online. I got to know people, I prayed for them, prayed with them, encouraged them, blessed them. No I wasn't perfect and I got into my fair share of drama and silliness but I've always admitted when I was wrong.
When I decided to step away, it wasn't because anyone ran me off, talked about my kids or me. Chile please!!! It was because I felt it was time for me to go. That's it. But I didn't disappear from the internet world, I am still doing what I can to help and bless people. I still have this blog, I'm on twitter, FB and I'm still me.
I've met some wonderful, amazing, beautiful, smart intelligent people via the internet. You can see someone everyday and not truly "know" them and meet someone online that truly gets it and gets you. If that makes me dumb, lame, or silly then so be it. They have cheered me on, prayed for me, encouraged me, celebrated with me, invited me into their homes, and some of them actually love me. lol
This week, a young lady I have never met in person but interacted with online and spoke to on the phone on occasion, passed away. She was a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend, a daughter, an aunt. Just three days before her passing, I was on her FB page responding to a status and encouraging her. When I found out, it hurt me deeply because it seemed so unreal. I cried and even now as I type tears well up in my eyes. I'm praying for all of those who knew and loved her. I know their lives will be different now that she is gone. I have some peace knowing she was drawing all the more closer to the Lord when she passed and her statuses reflected it. I don't have all of the answers, but I'm trusting God who knows best.
I typed all of this to say I am very grateful for the people that have come into my life via the internet. Some I have parted ways with and others I've formed lifelong bonds with and I can truly call them "friend." They've added to the group of amazing friends and family I already have in my life. I thank God for the all of the souls He has allowed my life to cross paths with. I will never take anyone for granted because in the blink of an eye, they can be gone. The internet is now an extension of the amazing life I have already been blessed with. For some, the internet is just the internet. But for me, it has become so much more.
~RIP Bree~ Q
I chose to be who I wanted to be. Some people don't ever post pics, use their names or locations and that is fine for them. My husband started referring to folks online as my serial killer friends. ROFL But I know there are more crazy people I see everyday versus those I posted and interacted with online. I got to know people, I prayed for them, prayed with them, encouraged them, blessed them. No I wasn't perfect and I got into my fair share of drama and silliness but I've always admitted when I was wrong.
When I decided to step away, it wasn't because anyone ran me off, talked about my kids or me. Chile please!!! It was because I felt it was time for me to go. That's it. But I didn't disappear from the internet world, I am still doing what I can to help and bless people. I still have this blog, I'm on twitter, FB and I'm still me.
I've met some wonderful, amazing, beautiful, smart intelligent people via the internet. You can see someone everyday and not truly "know" them and meet someone online that truly gets it and gets you. If that makes me dumb, lame, or silly then so be it. They have cheered me on, prayed for me, encouraged me, celebrated with me, invited me into their homes, and some of them actually love me. lol
This week, a young lady I have never met in person but interacted with online and spoke to on the phone on occasion, passed away. She was a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend, a daughter, an aunt. Just three days before her passing, I was on her FB page responding to a status and encouraging her. When I found out, it hurt me deeply because it seemed so unreal. I cried and even now as I type tears well up in my eyes. I'm praying for all of those who knew and loved her. I know their lives will be different now that she is gone. I have some peace knowing she was drawing all the more closer to the Lord when she passed and her statuses reflected it. I don't have all of the answers, but I'm trusting God who knows best.
I typed all of this to say I am very grateful for the people that have come into my life via the internet. Some I have parted ways with and others I've formed lifelong bonds with and I can truly call them "friend." They've added to the group of amazing friends and family I already have in my life. I thank God for the all of the souls He has allowed my life to cross paths with. I will never take anyone for granted because in the blink of an eye, they can be gone. The internet is now an extension of the amazing life I have already been blessed with. For some, the internet is just the internet. But for me, it has become so much more.
~RIP Bree~ Q
Wednesday, May 04, 2011
Having faith works
I am a writer by nature. I write a lot of things down. I write down my workouts, I have a book of writings and letters to the girls, I have notes all around my office, and I am always writing down my goals. It's important for me to "SEE" the things I'm planning because it helps me to stay focused. I write them down, I pray about it, and I trust God to work it out on my behalf. I have faith in Him. A lot of times I don't know how He is going to do it, but I trust Him to do it. And with that trust, I walk by faith A LOT. I make moves and decisions that others wouldn't dare do because they don't trust Him enough to make things work. But I don't move without Him!!!
Last year, I took a huge faith step. I walked away from a position I had been in for 3 years and took another position. The old job had more security and some really good perks but the new one I felt was a foot in the door for me. After taking this job, I wrote down some goals. I wanted to make a certain amount, I wanted to be doing a certain job, I wanted certain benefits, and I wanted to be in a certain position within a year. I'd heard other folks who are doing the job talk about how long and hard it is to move up but I said nothing. I trusted God, I worked hard and kept walking by faith.
Faith without works, is dead. That's in the bible. So many people have faith in faith, or they just have faith in God but they don't put that faith into action. Our faith must be exercised. I exercised it by making sure I used all of the talents God has blessed me with to my advantage. I used my creativity to think outside of the box and come up with new ideas and plans. I used my gift of gab to network, meet new people and put myself out there. I used my drive to press on and get involved in things most people in my position would not have thought about. I worked, I trusted, I worked, I believed, I worked, and thanked God in advance, I worked and it paid off. I did what I could to be a blessing to people and to show His love to others.
A few months ago I applied for a position that had everything I wrote about. I never heard anything. I started talking to folks and let them know I was interested and I heard nothing. Others applied and got interviewed for it and I heard nothing. Others were offered and they turned it down and I heard nothing. I thanked Him anyway. Whether I got the job or not, I was grateful. I never worried or bothered Him about it because I knew He had my best interest at heart. I put more into praising Him, and getting to know Him not because of the job but because I loved Him that much.
On Friday the 22nd I got a call from the Manager whom I had met at another event and I decided to put my name in his ear. He remembered me and wanted my resume'. He emailed to do an interview that day but I had left already.
The following Tuesday I interviewed.
On Wednesday morning they called my references.
Wednesday afternoon they sent some paperwork.
On Friday I sent them what they needed.
Yesterday they called for security references.
Today, they made me an offer.
On the 24th of this month, I hit my year in this current job, the new job wants me in 2 weeks!!!
This job is a better position, I will be doing what I love, I have great benefits, I have hours that will allow me to be at home more, it is in the professional ranks of my company, and I will get my Master's degree paid by them. Don't let anyone tell you what you can't do!!! Whatever goals you have for yourself, write them down and keep them on your mind. Have faith in God to move on your behalf, and exercise your faith by using the gifts and talents He has blessed you with. But most importantly, seek His face, and not His hand. Having faith in God, works!!! Q
Last year, I took a huge faith step. I walked away from a position I had been in for 3 years and took another position. The old job had more security and some really good perks but the new one I felt was a foot in the door for me. After taking this job, I wrote down some goals. I wanted to make a certain amount, I wanted to be doing a certain job, I wanted certain benefits, and I wanted to be in a certain position within a year. I'd heard other folks who are doing the job talk about how long and hard it is to move up but I said nothing. I trusted God, I worked hard and kept walking by faith.
Faith without works, is dead. That's in the bible. So many people have faith in faith, or they just have faith in God but they don't put that faith into action. Our faith must be exercised. I exercised it by making sure I used all of the talents God has blessed me with to my advantage. I used my creativity to think outside of the box and come up with new ideas and plans. I used my gift of gab to network, meet new people and put myself out there. I used my drive to press on and get involved in things most people in my position would not have thought about. I worked, I trusted, I worked, I believed, I worked, and thanked God in advance, I worked and it paid off. I did what I could to be a blessing to people and to show His love to others.
A few months ago I applied for a position that had everything I wrote about. I never heard anything. I started talking to folks and let them know I was interested and I heard nothing. Others applied and got interviewed for it and I heard nothing. Others were offered and they turned it down and I heard nothing. I thanked Him anyway. Whether I got the job or not, I was grateful. I never worried or bothered Him about it because I knew He had my best interest at heart. I put more into praising Him, and getting to know Him not because of the job but because I loved Him that much.
On Friday the 22nd I got a call from the Manager whom I had met at another event and I decided to put my name in his ear. He remembered me and wanted my resume'. He emailed to do an interview that day but I had left already.
The following Tuesday I interviewed.
On Wednesday morning they called my references.
Wednesday afternoon they sent some paperwork.
On Friday I sent them what they needed.
Yesterday they called for security references.
Today, they made me an offer.
On the 24th of this month, I hit my year in this current job, the new job wants me in 2 weeks!!!
This job is a better position, I will be doing what I love, I have great benefits, I have hours that will allow me to be at home more, it is in the professional ranks of my company, and I will get my Master's degree paid by them. Don't let anyone tell you what you can't do!!! Whatever goals you have for yourself, write them down and keep them on your mind. Have faith in God to move on your behalf, and exercise your faith by using the gifts and talents He has blessed you with. But most importantly, seek His face, and not His hand. Having faith in God, works!!! Q
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Butter Pecan Cake
This recipe came up in an advertisement on facebook. I immediately knew I wanted to make it. I read some of the reviews and didn't like it too much. So of course me being me, I had to tweak it. Here is the recipe:
2 cups of all purpose flour
2 tsp of baking powder
1/2 tsp of salt
1 cup of sugar
2 eggs
1 cup of milk
1/2 cup unsalted butter
1/2 cup of vegetable oil
1 tsp of vanilla
3/4 cup of chopped pecans
2 T of butter
The frosting:
3/4 cup of whipping cream
4 cups of powdered sugar
1/4 cup unsalted butter
1 tsp of vanilla
1/4 tsp of salt
1/4 cup of chopped pecans
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Mix 2 T of butter and 3/4 cup of pecans and cook in the oven for 10 minutes.
Sift flour, salt and baking powder. Cream sugar, butter, and oil until mixed well. Mix in eggs one at a time. Then alternate adding a little of the milk and flour mixture. Mix in vanilla and then hand mix in the pecans. Grease and flour 2 9 inch cake pans. Bake in oven for 30 minutes or until done turning halfway.
For frosting:
Cream butter, salt, and vanilla. Then add powdered sugar and cream. You might want to add more or less of the cream depending on how you like the consistency. Once it is how you like it, hand mix in the remaining pecans. I put about 1/2 cup of frosting on top of the first cake then topped it with the second. Then I frosted the sides of both and the top layer.
I really like this cake. It was moist and not too sweet. I would make some changes. I would add more baking powder to make the cake rise more and divide it into 3 pans. And for the frosting, it was really sweet. I would reduce the amount of sugar, and go with a little more butter instead. But imma still eat it. LOL Q
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Some hair pics
It's been a minute I know. But I'm playing catch up. Here are some pics of my hair over the past couple of months.
Monday, January 17, 2011
Another level
Yesterday my Pastor announced in church that I would be getting ordained at our state conference this year. I was excited but nervous at the same time. I've been licensed since 2006 so I knew this was coming. But the idea of going before a board etc has me feeling some kind of way. Not only that, I know this elevation means A LOT!!! Like A LOT, A LOT. It is going to open even more doors for me and I will have the paper backing as well when it comes to preaching engagements etc.
I know as I move toward this step, there are some things, and even people that would need to be removed. I've seen this happen time and time again in my life. But what I'm about to do goes beyond simply another title. I'm doing eternal work. Yes we live in bodies but we are souls and we have to spend eternity somewhere. My goal is to ensure as my Pastor would say, "you make heaven and miss hell." As someone who has been chastised by the word of God myself, I also know the truth sometimes hurts, and cuts. It's so easy for folks to get mad at the messenger when it is spoken. But I will never water down, sugar coat or adulterate the word of God in order to spare someone's feelings. I won't. I also won't change the word to suit me either. I will preach it the way God gives it to me and if it doesn't come from Him, I won't speak it. I'm not in this for fame, I don't want everyone to love me, I don't want any glory because it belongs to Him.... I just want to be the person God has called me to be whether folks like it or not. And when I give an account for all I've said and all of my deeds here on this earth, I want God to look at me and say, "well done." Q
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Red velvet cheesecake
This is for my twitter friend Msjetsetter.
Ingredients:
Red Velvet Crust Ingredients:
2 cups chocolate graham cracker crumbs
4 teaspoons brown sugar
1/4 cup butter, melted
Red Velevet Filling Ingredients:
3 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened
1 1/2 cups granulated sugar
4 eggs, beaten slightly
3 Tablespoons unsweetened cocoa
1 cup sour cream
1/2 cup buttermilk
1 Tablespoon vanilla extract
1 teaspoon white vinegar
2 (1 ounce) bottles red food coloring
Topping Ingredients:
4 ounces cream cheese, softened
1/4 cup butter, softened
2 cups confectioners' sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Strawberries for garnish
Red Velvet Cheesecake Directions:
1. Mix together chocolate graham cracker crumbs and brown sugar. Add melted butter and mix well.
2. Press mixture into bottom and up sides of 9-inch spring-form pan. Bake in 350 degree F oven for 10 minutes; cool slightly.
3. In a large bowl combine cream cheese and sugar and beat with a mixer until combined.
4. Add eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition.
5. Add cocoa, sour cream, buttermilk, vanilla extract, vinegar and red food coloring and continue to beat until filling is smooth and well mixed.
6. Pour batter into prepared crust and bake at 325 degrees F for 1 hour and 15 minutes or until cheesecake looks almost set. Remove cheesecake from oven and cool in pan. Cover and chill in refrigerator overnight (in pan).
7. To make the topping: Beat the cream cheese and butter in a large bowl until smooth. Gradually add powdered sugar and vanilla extract, beating until smooth. Spread evenly over top of cheesecake. Remove sides of spring-form pan.
Sunday, December 12, 2010
My 10 year old Princess D
I still remember that day like it was yesterday. I kept waking up and falling asleep. I called your dad and told him to come home from work. When he arrived, I was cleaning and he didn't believe me. When we arrived at the hospital, all of the nurses thought I was too calm to be in labor but I was farther along than anyone realized. My friend Michelle came and picked up B who was 2 at the time. The look she gave me as she left the hospital room, told me it was time. It was like she knew. I was overwhelmed. I was scared, happy, and nervous at the same time.
The time passed by quickly. I had the room dark, with a fountain going. It was me, your Dad, your Aunt Mel, the doctor and 2 nurses. From the time I arrived to the time you made your appearance, 2 hours and 18 minutes passed. I remember looking at you an immediately feeling so much love for you. I wondered how I would be able to do it but I guess God had it all worked out. I loved you like I had always known you.
Through the years I've watched you grow in awe. You have this amazing spirit and old soul. You are so receptive, wise, and confident. I wish I had those qualities at your age. So here you are, 10 years later. My love for you continues to grow. I remember being pregnant with you and receiving a prophesy about what you would be and I still believe it. I know God has great things in store for you. I hope you will always know, how much we love you, how much I love you. You are one of the greatest gifts God has ever given to me. Happy Birthday Princess D!!! Q
Tuesday, October 05, 2010
Where I stand
I’ve been thinking about this blog post for awhile now. It’s been on my heart and mind but I kept forgetting to put this out here. I know some of what I am going to say may upset, and shock some people. While for some it will be no big secret. But as someone who is called by God to speak the truth, I feel I need to put it out there.
First let me say that when it comes to the issue of homosexuality, I am on no one’s side but the Lord, period. This is something I’ve prayed, fasted, and sought Him concerning countless times. My view is not of my own personal feelings.
So what do I believe? I believe the “act” of homosexuality is a sin. It is a sin like lying, stealing, cheating, and fornicating. Do I believe some folks are born homosexuals? No but I believe we are all born with a sin that we will struggle with and homosexuality is one of those. Do I believe being homosexual means a person is going to hell? Absolutely not. I don’t believe all Christians are going to heaven either. Do I believe someone can be freed from homosexuality? Yes because I believe with God ALL things are possible. What scripture did I use to come to my conclusion? Well I went to Genesis in the beginning. I believe God was clear on the order of things when he gave Eve to Adam. Are you against “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell?” Yes I am. I believe sexual orientation does not affect someone’s military performance. The military has a set of rules and guidelines for everyone to follow while in uniform. Who someone lies down with at night, is not my problem. They let the whoremongers openly serve so why not the gays. How do I as a Christian deal with someone who is homosexual? I love them, encourage them and pray for them like I do everyone else in my life. We go out to eat, watch movies, go to shows, I tweet and facebook them etc. They are human just like me and I love them.
Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let me rebuke some things I see on both sides of the issue that annoy the spit out of me.
1)Just because I believe homosexuality is a sin, doesn’t make me a homophobe. You know I really hate that word. Because “phobe” implies fear and I don’t fear homosexuals at all. I don’t hate them either. Why is it when it comes to this issue, if you don’t agree, you are an evil, hatemonger? We can disagree without one hating the other. I’m against fornication but I don’t hate fornicators.
2)Christians, please stop acting like we have a monopoly on God. I don’t like signs like, “God hates f#gs” and etc. Really? I mean the last time I read my bible, it said for God so love the world. Not just those who are straight. Stop it!!! We need to focus more on showing God’s love. How can you draw people when you tell them God hates them? Who would want to serve a God like that? I am heartbroken to hear that young people are killing themselves after being bullied by mean and hateful people. That is not of God.
3)To some of my gay brothers and sisters, I get it, you are gay. Do you have to remind me and put it in my face all the time? I mean, I’m straight but you don’t see me rocking shirts, driving with a bumper sticker or uses it as an excuse every time someone hurts my feelings. It has nothing to do with who you choose to sleep with. Most people don’t care. I just want to enjoy your company and not hear about your exploits and this and that. I feel the same with my straight friends. What happens in your bedroom should stay in your bedroom.
4)Why do some Christians act like the only sins God is against are homosexuality and abortion? I mean there are signs, bumper stickers and protests against these two but what about the others? So did we just give a pass to lying and cheating? Now I’m not saying you can’t be against them but if you give a pass to the others, something’s not right. ALL sin is unrighteousness. Yes you who fornicate with your boyfriend or girlfriend of x amount of years. Yeah you who lie to your kids and have them believe in Santa Claus. Yes you who are claiming your sister’s kids on your taxes so you can get more money back. Yup that is all sin.
5)Christians aren’t the only ones against gay marriage etc. I for one have never rallied against it or marched etc. There are atheists, Buddhists, and other religions that are against it as well. Why? I don’t know. Why is the sky blue? That is just the way it is. We may be more vocal but we are not alone.
6)Christians please stop saying gay marriage takes away from your heterosexual marriage. I don’t care if the government starts allowing folks to marry computers; my marriage won’t be any less because of it. Yes I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. But if 2 women decide to get married, so be it. Only God has the final say on what is truly a marriage. We really need to check ourselves and stop giving folks power over the value we place on things in our lives.
7)Gays, please understand everyone won’t like you and guess what, they don’t have to. There is no law that says we have to get along. Folks will be how they want to be no matter what. You just be you, love them and pray for them. Stop trying to force feed things down their throats in order to get them to accept you because they won’t. That is life. There are plenty of people who don’t like me but I choose to focus my energy on those that do.
8)Please stop with the foolish arguments. I heard someone say, “well if you do x, y, z then you shouldn’t be against homosexuality because you are a sinner as well.” Really? I mean that’s like saying I shouldn’t speak out against rape and murder either. That’s foolish. If someone believes something is a sin, they have every right to do so whether they have sinned or not. You can choose to ignore them. We throw around the word hypocrite way too quickly.
So there you have it. With all that said and done, I choose to focus on loving people and telling them of the goodness of Christ. Gay, straight, sideways, whatever, that is what I do. I don't have all of the answers and I don't pretend to be right. I have struggles, I sin and I repent constantly. But no matter what you choose to believe, I trust God. I reserve the final say and judgement to Him. He is the only one that has a heaven or hell to put anyone in. And I believe that even in all of our mess, He loves us and He will continue to show His love by giving us chance after chance after chance up until the very end to accept Him as our Savior so we may live with Him for eternity in Heaven. We need to show more of His love to everyone, not just those we deem worthy because truth of the matter is, none of us are.
First let me say that when it comes to the issue of homosexuality, I am on no one’s side but the Lord, period. This is something I’ve prayed, fasted, and sought Him concerning countless times. My view is not of my own personal feelings.
So what do I believe? I believe the “act” of homosexuality is a sin. It is a sin like lying, stealing, cheating, and fornicating. Do I believe some folks are born homosexuals? No but I believe we are all born with a sin that we will struggle with and homosexuality is one of those. Do I believe being homosexual means a person is going to hell? Absolutely not. I don’t believe all Christians are going to heaven either. Do I believe someone can be freed from homosexuality? Yes because I believe with God ALL things are possible. What scripture did I use to come to my conclusion? Well I went to Genesis in the beginning. I believe God was clear on the order of things when he gave Eve to Adam. Are you against “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell?” Yes I am. I believe sexual orientation does not affect someone’s military performance. The military has a set of rules and guidelines for everyone to follow while in uniform. Who someone lies down with at night, is not my problem. They let the whoremongers openly serve so why not the gays. How do I as a Christian deal with someone who is homosexual? I love them, encourage them and pray for them like I do everyone else in my life. We go out to eat, watch movies, go to shows, I tweet and facebook them etc. They are human just like me and I love them.
Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let me rebuke some things I see on both sides of the issue that annoy the spit out of me.
1)Just because I believe homosexuality is a sin, doesn’t make me a homophobe. You know I really hate that word. Because “phobe” implies fear and I don’t fear homosexuals at all. I don’t hate them either. Why is it when it comes to this issue, if you don’t agree, you are an evil, hatemonger? We can disagree without one hating the other. I’m against fornication but I don’t hate fornicators.
2)Christians, please stop acting like we have a monopoly on God. I don’t like signs like, “God hates f#gs” and etc. Really? I mean the last time I read my bible, it said for God so love the world. Not just those who are straight. Stop it!!! We need to focus more on showing God’s love. How can you draw people when you tell them God hates them? Who would want to serve a God like that? I am heartbroken to hear that young people are killing themselves after being bullied by mean and hateful people. That is not of God.
3)To some of my gay brothers and sisters, I get it, you are gay. Do you have to remind me and put it in my face all the time? I mean, I’m straight but you don’t see me rocking shirts, driving with a bumper sticker or uses it as an excuse every time someone hurts my feelings. It has nothing to do with who you choose to sleep with. Most people don’t care. I just want to enjoy your company and not hear about your exploits and this and that. I feel the same with my straight friends. What happens in your bedroom should stay in your bedroom.
4)Why do some Christians act like the only sins God is against are homosexuality and abortion? I mean there are signs, bumper stickers and protests against these two but what about the others? So did we just give a pass to lying and cheating? Now I’m not saying you can’t be against them but if you give a pass to the others, something’s not right. ALL sin is unrighteousness. Yes you who fornicate with your boyfriend or girlfriend of x amount of years. Yeah you who lie to your kids and have them believe in Santa Claus. Yes you who are claiming your sister’s kids on your taxes so you can get more money back. Yup that is all sin.
5)Christians aren’t the only ones against gay marriage etc. I for one have never rallied against it or marched etc. There are atheists, Buddhists, and other religions that are against it as well. Why? I don’t know. Why is the sky blue? That is just the way it is. We may be more vocal but we are not alone.
6)Christians please stop saying gay marriage takes away from your heterosexual marriage. I don’t care if the government starts allowing folks to marry computers; my marriage won’t be any less because of it. Yes I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. But if 2 women decide to get married, so be it. Only God has the final say on what is truly a marriage. We really need to check ourselves and stop giving folks power over the value we place on things in our lives.
7)Gays, please understand everyone won’t like you and guess what, they don’t have to. There is no law that says we have to get along. Folks will be how they want to be no matter what. You just be you, love them and pray for them. Stop trying to force feed things down their throats in order to get them to accept you because they won’t. That is life. There are plenty of people who don’t like me but I choose to focus my energy on those that do.
8)Please stop with the foolish arguments. I heard someone say, “well if you do x, y, z then you shouldn’t be against homosexuality because you are a sinner as well.” Really? I mean that’s like saying I shouldn’t speak out against rape and murder either. That’s foolish. If someone believes something is a sin, they have every right to do so whether they have sinned or not. You can choose to ignore them. We throw around the word hypocrite way too quickly.
So there you have it. With all that said and done, I choose to focus on loving people and telling them of the goodness of Christ. Gay, straight, sideways, whatever, that is what I do. I don't have all of the answers and I don't pretend to be right. I have struggles, I sin and I repent constantly. But no matter what you choose to believe, I trust God. I reserve the final say and judgement to Him. He is the only one that has a heaven or hell to put anyone in. And I believe that even in all of our mess, He loves us and He will continue to show His love by giving us chance after chance after chance up until the very end to accept Him as our Savior so we may live with Him for eternity in Heaven. We need to show more of His love to everyone, not just those we deem worthy because truth of the matter is, none of us are.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
We need a show!!
Thomas: Look at your mom and look at me. Who do you think would win in a fight?
The Supremes: *in unison* Mom
Thomas: What? Why would you say that?
D: Because she's from New York
...POW!!!! Q
The Supremes: *in unison* Mom
Thomas: What? Why would you say that?
D: Because she's from New York
...POW!!!! Q
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Quotes
I love quotes. I mean I really really love them. I search the web for quotes I feel speak to me and will also be a blessing to others. Here are a few I've shared on twitter and Facebook recently:
Always tell the truth. That way you don't have to remember what you said. Mark Twain
"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Mahatma Gandhi
"Lord, let me live until I die." Will Rogers
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." ~Erma Bombeck
"The individual who is mistake-free is also probably sitting around doing nothing. And that is a very big mistake." John Wooden
"A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones that need the advice." Bill Cosby
"The final measure of one's life won't be how well you live, but how well others live because of you." Anon
"Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do because after you succeed the only things you'll probably remember are the praise of your friends and the silence of your enemies." Anon
If there are "friends" who only come around when they need something or are going through a tough time, it may be time to demote them to "associate". People only do what you allow - don't give silent permission to poor habits! Lisa Nicole Bell
"Be happy that you even have a life." Princess D
"Don't devalue what God is able to do through you. Little becomes much in God's hands." My Pastor
Always tell the truth. That way you don't have to remember what you said. Mark Twain
"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Mahatma Gandhi
"Lord, let me live until I die." Will Rogers
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." ~Erma Bombeck
"The individual who is mistake-free is also probably sitting around doing nothing. And that is a very big mistake." John Wooden
"A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones that need the advice." Bill Cosby
"The final measure of one's life won't be how well you live, but how well others live because of you." Anon
"Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do because after you succeed the only things you'll probably remember are the praise of your friends and the silence of your enemies." Anon
If there are "friends" who only come around when they need something or are going through a tough time, it may be time to demote them to "associate". People only do what you allow - don't give silent permission to poor habits! Lisa Nicole Bell
"Be happy that you even have a life." Princess D
"Don't devalue what God is able to do through you. Little becomes much in God's hands." My Pastor
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Misery loves company
I don't get people who have nothing better to do than be messy, childish, and silly. I don't and I won't. I believe those people are very unhappy inside and their coping mechanism is to drag others down with them. Miserable people are always looking for company. Decline the invitation to join them. I am a very open and honest person. I admit I am very flawed and I've made some mistakes. But I don't let my past dictate my future or keep me from being who God called me to be. I understand we all make mistakes, but I can't accept not owning them and moving on from them.
I usually don't give folks the time of day but I am addressing this because someone dear to me was upset so I figured I'll clear the air. I tweeted last night about Fantasia messing with a married man. It was retweeted by several people. Apparently someone took issue with it and got all in a tizzy trying to call me a liar and urging folks to call me on it. *BLINK* No seriously they did. Like a little high school child looking for friends to back them up. LOL You see I was very active on a message board. I've told a lot about the good and bad in my life. There was a time when I hated men and didn't love myself and so I used them. No I wasn't sleeping with a bunch of dudes in order to get stuff but I was using them. I had my standards. I had one main boyfriend who I was with in every way if you know what I mean and he was the only one in that aspect. I was very clear about boundaries and never crossed them. (This is why I tell girls they don't have to give "it" away in order to get what they want.) I learned then that men loved the chase. It was the hope of one day bedding me that kept them coming around.
I started dating another guy who was in a relationship as well. I thought it was perfect. My boyfriend was long distance and now I had someone near by. I didn't have to worry about him bothering me as much or so I thought. Long story short he ended up getting engaged and yes I was the other woman. They never married, I broke it off with him soon after he got engaged although he had a hard time letting me go. I was the one who didn't give up the goodies and I think it bothered him. So much so that he started stalking me. Long story short, I learned some hard lessons about playing with folks feelings and using them.
So you see, I've NEVER been with a married man. In all of my trifling, pre-Jesus ways, the devil in me had a limit. Was what I did wrong, yes. Would I do it again, NEVER. Is it different from Fantasia, yes and no. Yes because he was taken too. No because being married with kids is totally different than being engaged. Does this make me a hypocrite, no. I KNOW what I did was wrong and who best to speak on a situation like this than me? But I never slept with the guy and why would I when he was getting it from someone else at home. I told yall I had standards. LOL
I am sure someone is out there now trying to find proof to discredit me but they won't. It speaks volumes about them than it does about me. This was over 12 years ago and I freely admitted to this several times. Not to brag but to offer another side to the topic and to show how far I've come in my life. Reading is fundamental and tricks are for kids. Never worry about folks who try to bring you down. You pray for them and let God deal with it. I know it's hard at times but I have peace knowing God is fighting my battles.
Leave miserable people to their own devices. If you ignore them, you win. Don't stoop down to their level, make them come up to yours. So when you encounter those miserable people who are so quick to try to call you out, discredit you, or speak ill of you, tell them "it's called a life. Get you one. Stop worrying about mine." Now RUN TELL DAT!!! Q
I usually don't give folks the time of day but I am addressing this because someone dear to me was upset so I figured I'll clear the air. I tweeted last night about Fantasia messing with a married man. It was retweeted by several people. Apparently someone took issue with it and got all in a tizzy trying to call me a liar and urging folks to call me on it. *BLINK* No seriously they did. Like a little high school child looking for friends to back them up. LOL You see I was very active on a message board. I've told a lot about the good and bad in my life. There was a time when I hated men and didn't love myself and so I used them. No I wasn't sleeping with a bunch of dudes in order to get stuff but I was using them. I had my standards. I had one main boyfriend who I was with in every way if you know what I mean and he was the only one in that aspect. I was very clear about boundaries and never crossed them. (This is why I tell girls they don't have to give "it" away in order to get what they want.) I learned then that men loved the chase. It was the hope of one day bedding me that kept them coming around.
I started dating another guy who was in a relationship as well. I thought it was perfect. My boyfriend was long distance and now I had someone near by. I didn't have to worry about him bothering me as much or so I thought. Long story short he ended up getting engaged and yes I was the other woman. They never married, I broke it off with him soon after he got engaged although he had a hard time letting me go. I was the one who didn't give up the goodies and I think it bothered him. So much so that he started stalking me. Long story short, I learned some hard lessons about playing with folks feelings and using them.
So you see, I've NEVER been with a married man. In all of my trifling, pre-Jesus ways, the devil in me had a limit. Was what I did wrong, yes. Would I do it again, NEVER. Is it different from Fantasia, yes and no. Yes because he was taken too. No because being married with kids is totally different than being engaged. Does this make me a hypocrite, no. I KNOW what I did was wrong and who best to speak on a situation like this than me? But I never slept with the guy and why would I when he was getting it from someone else at home. I told yall I had standards. LOL
I am sure someone is out there now trying to find proof to discredit me but they won't. It speaks volumes about them than it does about me. This was over 12 years ago and I freely admitted to this several times. Not to brag but to offer another side to the topic and to show how far I've come in my life. Reading is fundamental and tricks are for kids. Never worry about folks who try to bring you down. You pray for them and let God deal with it. I know it's hard at times but I have peace knowing God is fighting my battles.
Leave miserable people to their own devices. If you ignore them, you win. Don't stoop down to their level, make them come up to yours. So when you encounter those miserable people who are so quick to try to call you out, discredit you, or speak ill of you, tell them "it's called a life. Get you one. Stop worrying about mine." Now RUN TELL DAT!!! Q
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Oh Em Gee
So here I was on twitter minding my business tweeting as usual. I tweeted about how I had a dream last night about Vince Carter. No it wasn't a naughty dream. LOL Anyone who knows me, knows I am a HUGE fan. I've been one for over 12 years. So in my dream, I met him and presented him with a platter of cupcakes. His favorite was the key lime one. I tweeted about all of this and just kind of kept on going. In the meantime, I decided to check my yahoo email. All of a sudden I got an email from twitter. It said, "Vince Carter is now following you on twitter." My heart skipped a beat for a minute. I look at the name and it looked like the one I was already following. But I clicked back over to twitter just to make sure and it was true.
I screamed out loud scaring the dog and the Supremes. I ran in the room and tackled Thomas telling him. Tears welled up in my as I tweeted and posted the good news on FB. I am just shocked and amazed. I am not moved by a lot of celebrities but he is one that I just have sooo much respect for. As you guys know, I finally saw him play awhile back in a game. I plan on seeing him 3 more times this season in AZ again, CO, and TN. I want to get closer so he can hear me yell, lol. My next and final goal is to meet him. Even though I know I would darn near pass out!!!! I will keep you posted. For right now, I am just super happy. This is a great belated b-day gift!!! Q
I screamed out loud scaring the dog and the Supremes. I ran in the room and tackled Thomas telling him. Tears welled up in my as I tweeted and posted the good news on FB. I am just shocked and amazed. I am not moved by a lot of celebrities but he is one that I just have sooo much respect for. As you guys know, I finally saw him play awhile back in a game. I plan on seeing him 3 more times this season in AZ again, CO, and TN. I want to get closer so he can hear me yell, lol. My next and final goal is to meet him. Even though I know I would darn near pass out!!!! I will keep you posted. For right now, I am just super happy. This is a great belated b-day gift!!! Q
Sunday, August 08, 2010
Happy Sweet 16 to me!!!!
Yes I am celebrating my sweet 16, again. I know a lot of people have said they don't want to be 16 again but neither do I. LOL But I celebrate it because 16 was a major turning point in my life. It was a little over 16 years ago today when I made the decision to skip the 11th grade and graduate a year early. I believe that decision completely changed my life and brought me to where I am now. If I would have waited, would I have gone to the college I went to? That experience was horrible and made me decide to get away and join the military. It was in the military that I met my wonderful husband. Here we are, happily married with 3 beautiful kids. Who knows who or what I would have become. Either way, I am thankful for the path I eventually took. It wasn't always easy but nothing worth having is. So I say thank you to that 16 year old who made that decision all those years ago. Happy Birthday to me!!!! Q
Saturday, August 07, 2010
Surprise Puppy
We decided to get the Supremes a puppy. It's something we've thought about for awhile and a friend of mine had one for sale. He is a Cockapoo named Romeo. Of course we had to surprise them with him. Check out the video.
